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Imogen
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Best guy friend
« Thread Started on Jan 9, 2008, 10:45pm »

Okay. I thought I might as well start a thread.

So there's this boy, Jack. We were good friends, and we liked eachother. And he dumped his girlfriend to go out with me. I mean, it wasn't a HUGE thing, they hadn't even kissed, after like three months.

But I chickened out. I thought I saw him as more of a brother or a cousin, so we didn' talk.

We're friends again. And we're really, really close. And sometimes I think I would like to date himmm. But then at a party a while ago he was like "I love you", like properly. But he was fairly drunk and I don't want to be like.. the unloving one in a relationship? There's a lot of pressure there.

And now he's got a girlfriend and I think they're a really strange couple. They just don't go. My friends agree. We almost kissed a couple of weeks ago. (pre-gf), and it felt really natural. But when I see him and I'm not drunk I just don't know. He anonys me SO much sometimes.

So, at the end of this rambling post. Do you think I like him? Hahah. Thankyou. x

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Re: Best guy friend
« Reply #1 on Jan 14, 2008, 4:29pm »

Of course you like him, it depends on HOW you like him though. You don't necesarily (excuse my spelling) even have to like some one to date them. I know plenty of people that didn't really like the person they were dating before they started dating but later couldn't imagine not being with them. If it still feels natural, try dating him. It's just dating after all, it's not like you have to marry him just yet (if at all).
This other girl though. . . does he honestly apear to like her? Knowing male tactics/advice like i do, tis possible he is just trying to make you jealous. We tend to do that to gauge just how much a girl likes us. (I apologize for males in general, but thats how we are.)

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Re: Best guy friend
« Reply #2 on Jan 19, 2008, 11:47pm »

Isn't going out with someone a girl tactic ? I've never heard of a guy doing that..

but then again, all my guy friends are weird. It honestly does sound as though you like him though. Chickening out is just a sign that you aren't as comfortable with him as he is with you. If he were single, I'd say try dating him, but let him know where you stand; tell him not to go fast with you, because you're just testing waters. You probably do like him that way, but fear or some other emotion quickly stamps that out. It's instinctual, I would know. *Queen of Chickens*

But considering the fact that he's got a girlfriend... well, what Jass is saying has merit; he could be using her to make you jealous, or simply as a replacement for you. If he can't have you, he can have someone else and simply pretend that it's you. Which sounds horrible, but can be likely. So Jass' question stands, does he honestly appear to like her ? If so, then you have to be the noble one and back off. If not.. well, depending on how much you want to fight for him, then you could always try and break them up. But note that if you do, you'll be stuck with him, so make sure it's what you want to do. Don't break them up if you aren't completely sure you want to try to make it work, because that's just mean.

Or, you could always just wait for them to break up. Which could possibly take awhile, but time can always make you see if you really do like him and then you wouldn't have the guilt of breaking up a good thing if it turns out you don't want him.

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Re: Best guy friend
« Reply #3 on Jan 19, 2008, 11:49pm »

I've been so busy I've been brainwashed sorry Imogen. Welcome to AA by the way!

Well, if you see him as a brother or a cousin, let him go. Stay close friends with him.

I think (no offense) that you do have real feelings for him, but are chickening out. I also think that maybe not only you dont think the new girl and him go well together, I think (and just guessing) maybe you're a bit jealous of them together.

But I don't think you should keep kissing him; don't you think it'd be upsetting for the other girl to find out him cheating on her?

I'll talk to you later.

Ava xxx XD o.O

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